"When I first began my career in diversity and intercultural work, I wrote an article which was widely distributed called, "Gender – the Ultimate Cultural Difference", which, on rereading, still has some relevance. The context? It was about 30 years ago that a friend and I created and delivered workshops for men on the topic of "How to love an angry woman", assisting men to respond both sensitively and effectively to the rising voices of women as feminism bit them. This task is perhaps even more pressing in our contemporary world where the war of words drones on and the real war of drones is horrific, where insatiable fear is stoked and turns to anger and what some experience as the short-lived breath of release found in violence. Many of us could be carrying a suicide bomb, even unknowingly, set to detonate by gender identity triggers"